Do you have that one friend that you know you can turn to when things are rough and she’ll always give you the perfect advice? Or that friend that is so good at listening without judging that you can tell her your deepest, darkest fears and know she’ll still love you?
What if I told you that person could be you?
Maybe you already know that, but you’re not feeling like that relationship is working very well right now.
Maybe you feel like there’s so much you’re supposed to do and who you’re supposed to be that you just can’t cut through all the noise.
That’s why it’s important to create sacred space that’s just for you. And I don’t mean space to pamper yourself and relax (though you should be doing that too!). What I’m talking about is a space where you do your inner or soul work and get to know the deepest parts of yourself so you can become your own best friend.
A relationship with yourself is a sacred journey of self-discovery. Doing soul and inner work can be exciting and challenging, but it’s oh so worth it. As you learn more about yourself, your life will gain meaning and purpose. But such inner work is sacred.
Therefore, you should be creating sacred space for doing it.
Why You Need Sacred Space
“Create sacred space and be reminded of who you are. You are spirit in body.”
~”Make Sacred Space.” from Goddess Chant: Sacred Pleasure, Shawna Carol
You may have heard the term sacred space before. It’s commonly used by practitioners of magick before rituals, ceremonies, and even meditations. The reason they use it is to create a space that’s outside of the mundane world. This enables them to concentrate on whatever they are doing.
Sacred space is just that – a space where you work with and on the sacred part of yourself. It’s a space that is focused solely on you. Therefore, this is not a space where you worry about your to-do list, what you’re going to make for dinner, other daily tasks or concerns. It is also not a space for others to be in your head. Women tend to have a difficult time making space for themselves and often feel guilty about it. Your sacred space should be a guilt-free zone. You create sacred space to work on and connect with your soul, so it’s a space that is vital to self-care. Therefore, by creating sacred space and doing inner or soul work, you are keeping yourself centered and grounded. That’s good for yourself and also everyone else in your life.
So, kick those judgy voices out of your head while you’re in this space.
It’s Helpful To Create a Physical Space
Sacred space is really a mindset. It’s a space you hold for doing inner or soul work. This space is a judgment-free zone, a place where you can vacation from your daily concerns for a bit, a place where you can explore the very essence of yourself. This space can be physically anywhere because the important part of the space is in your mind.
However, having a physical space can be helpful for a number of reasons. A physical space anchors you. If you have a special spot, indoors or outdoors, then you are more likely to create sacred space more regularly. If you sit in the same place for the same purpose (not the exact task, but the purpose of soul work), then your mind will soon learn that when you sit here, it’s time to explore your inner world. It takes a little while, but it will become a habit for you. Your mind will quiet more easily after a while if you do it regularly.
That’s not to say that you must have a physical space or that you must always use the same space. If you feel called to go out into nature one day instead of sitting in your room, then by all means follow that desire. There is likely something you need to learn or discover from nature. I think you’ll find it easier to make a habit of inner work if you have a physical space that you use regularly.
Your Space For Soul Work
Sacred space is for all inner and soul work. It’s a space where you connect deeply to yourself, but especially to your highest self. It’s a safe space for exploring who you are, what you value, what you want, and for doing inner work.
I recommend creating sacred space before you do any inner work, including journaling, meditation, reading tarot cards, rituals or ceremonies, and even for affirmations. Creating sacred space enables you to connect more deeply to yourself and to more comfortably do inner work.
Creating An Altar
If you have a physical space that you will be using, then I recommend creating some kind of altar. Even if your space is outside, you can use natural things to create an altar or place of focus. The purpose of any kind of altar is just to give you access to sacred objects you may need and to enable you to focus.
If you’re outside, then your altar will consist of whatever you bring with you, such as tarot cards or candles, plus whatever natural items call to you. Search around the area and pick up things you feel drawn to. Though I would suggest not removing anything growing; I’m referring to things such as rocks and pinecones or other items that nature has left on the ground. Then arrange the items in a way that feels right to you. There is no right or wrong way because this is all about following your intuition here. (As an aside, if you are using candles or incense outside, please be sure to use them responsibly!)
If you’re inside, then you can be more creative with how you want your space. Depending on how much room you have, it might be nice to use a little table to make a permanent altar if you feel inclined. However, a permanent altar isn’t necessary. You can follow the same instructions for creating a temporary indoor altar as an outside one. You can choose items from inside your home that hold special meaning for you, or you can choose items you find outside.
If you are making a permanent altar, you can keep your sacred items, such as candles, incense, and crystals, on or near it for easy access. The fun part of a permanent altar is that you can change the items on it based on seasons, important holidays or occasions, or based on what you feel at the moment. A permanent altar is also nice because it’s a place you can go to whenever you just need a quick boost of energy or to get centered without having to create a new altar.
Creating Sacred Space
Now that you have your altar set up or in mind, it’s time to work on creating your sacred space. Creating sacred space is deceptively simple because it’s primarily a mental space.
Sit in the space that you will be using. If you’ve decided not to create a physical space, just choose a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed.
Close your eyes and just feel the energy. That might seem a little strange at first, but focus on what the space makes you feel like. Try to focus only on that. Do you feel excited? This might mean the energy in the space is high. Do you feel calm? This might mean the energy in the space is soothing. You get the idea. For this, you’ll simply be paying attention to how the physical space makes you feel.
Once you know how you feel in that space, then you’re going to tap into that energy to create your sacred space. While sacred space is a mental concept primarily, we’re going to create an energy boundary. Technically, it’s not necessary, but it will help you to feel that this space is outside of your mundane world so that you can more easily focus.
Feel the energy again and determine what natural place or force it feels like to you. For example, if you feel calm, then maybe the energy feels like the ocean or the forest. Or maybe you feel excited and bursting with energy, so the energy reminds you of a storm. It doesn’t matter what it feels like as long as it makes sense to you.
You’re going to imagine that natural place or force is surrounding your space like a bubble enclosing you. Visualize it surrounding you, keeping you safe and in a space that is yours alone. When you feel that your space has a natural boundary around it, then thank your deity/deities or the universe for your sacred space. Then you can say, “This space lies outside of reality until I release it,” or something similar that feels right to you.
The mental space should follow your energy. You’ve created an energetic boundary, which should help to keep you focused. However, at first, you will likely find that mundane thoughts and worries creep in, or even that you feel silly. When that happens, remind yourself that this is your space, and nothing and no one outside of yourself is invited. Then take a breath and return your thoughts to the inner work you are doing.
After some practice, you’ll find that you can create your sacred space easily whenever you want to do inner work. And your mind will learn to quiet down at this time after you’ve practiced it some. If you’re still having trouble keeping your thoughts quiet, then I suggest getting out some paper and dumping it all down right after you create your boundary. That way you can have all those thoughts in front of you and can examine them when you are done. This should help to quiet your mind and let you focus. It can also be good to read what you’ve written and look for any issues that you may need to address, such as patterns of negative thoughts, or problems that you are having trouble finding solutions for.
When you are finished using your sacred space, it’s simple to release it. Imagine the energetic boundary melting away, or the natural force releasing your space and bringing back into the mundane world. You can also say, “I release this sacred space,” or something similar. You want to acknowledge that you are releasing the energy that was holding the space and moving back into the mundane world.
Having Space for You
The wonderful thing about being able to create sacred space is that you can return to it whenever you are experiencing stress, doubt, fear, and so on. Whenever you are having troubles, you can return to this space in order to reconnect with yourself and work through the problem.
It’s a space that becomes like a good friend because it’s a place where you connect with the deepest parts of yourself. It’s also a wonderful to keep centered, grounded, and to work through challenges you’re facing in your inner or outer world. Create sacred space any time you plan to do any inner work and give yourself the gift of focusing on you.
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