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    Sacred Living

    Create Sacred Space to Reconnect to You

    Do you have that one friend that you know you can turn to when things are rough and she’ll always give you the perfect advice? Or that friend that is so good at listening without judging that you can tell her your deepest, darkest fears and know she’ll still love you?

    What if I told you that person could be you?

    Maybe you already know that, but you’re not feeling like that relationship is working very well right now.

    Maybe you feel like there’s so much you’re supposed to do and who you’re supposed to be that you just can’t cut through all the noise.

    That’s why it’s important to create sacred space that’s just for you. And I don’t mean space to pamper yourself and relax (though you should be doing that too!). What I’m talking about is a space where you do your inner or soul work and get to know the deepest parts of yourself so you can become your own best friend.

    A relationship with yourself is a sacred journey of self-discovery. Doing soul and inner work can be exciting and challenging, but it’s oh so worth it. As you learn more about yourself, your life will gain meaning and purpose. But such inner work is sacred.

    Therefore, you should be creating sacred space for doing it.

     

    Why You Need Sacred Space

     

    “Create sacred space and be reminded of who you are. You are spirit in body.”

    ~”Make Sacred Space.” from Goddess Chant: Sacred Pleasure, Shawna Carol

     

    You may have heard the term sacred space before. It’s commonly used by practitioners of magick before rituals, ceremonies, and even meditations. The reason they use it is to create a space that’s outside of the mundane world. This enables them to concentrate on whatever they are doing.

    Sacred space is just that – a space where you work with and on the sacred part of yourself. It’s a space that is focused solely on you. Therefore, this is not a space where you worry about your to-do list, what you’re going to make for dinner, other daily tasks or concerns. It is also not a space for others to be in your head. Women tend to have a difficult time making space for themselves and often feel guilty about it. Your sacred space should be a guilt-free zone. You create sacred space to work on and connect with your soul, so it’s a space that is vital to self-care. Therefore, by creating sacred space and doing inner or soul work, you are keeping yourself centered and grounded. That’s good for yourself and also everyone else in your life.

    So, kick those judgy voices out of your head while you’re in this space.

     

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    It’s Helpful To Create a Physical Space

    Sacred space is really a mindset. It’s a space you hold for doing inner or soul work. This space is a judgment-free zone, a place where you can vacation from your daily concerns for a bit, a place where you can explore the very essence of yourself. This space can be physically anywhere because the important part of the space is in your mind.

    However, having a physical space can be helpful for a number of reasons. A physical space anchors you. If you have a special spot, indoors or outdoors, then you are more likely to create sacred space more regularly. If you sit in the same place for the same purpose (not the exact task, but the purpose of soul work), then your mind will soon learn that when you sit here, it’s time to explore your inner world. It takes a little while, but it will become a habit for you. Your mind will quiet more easily after a while if you do it regularly.

    That’s not to say that you must have a physical space or that you must always use the same space. If you feel called to go out into nature one day instead of sitting in your room, then by all means follow that desire. There is likely something you need to learn or discover from nature. I think you’ll find it easier to make a habit of inner work if you have a physical space that you use regularly.

     

    Your Space For Soul Work

    Sacred space is for all inner and soul work. It’s a space where you connect deeply to yourself, but especially to your highest self. It’s a safe space for exploring who you are, what you value, what you want, and for doing inner work.

    I recommend creating sacred space before you do any inner work, including journaling, meditation, reading tarot cards, rituals or ceremonies, and even for affirmations. Creating sacred space enables you to connect more deeply to yourself and to more comfortably do inner work.

     

    Creating An Altar

    If you have a physical space that you will be using, then I recommend creating some kind of altar. Even if your space is outside, you can use natural things to create an altar or place of focus. The purpose of any kind of altar is just to give you access to sacred objects you may need and to enable you to focus.

    If you’re outside, then your altar will consist of whatever you bring with you, such as tarot cards or candles, plus whatever natural items call to you. Search around the area and pick up things you feel drawn to. Though I would suggest not removing anything growing; I’m referring to things such as rocks and pinecones or other items that nature has left on the ground. Then arrange the items in a way that feels right to you. There is no right or wrong way because this is all about following your intuition here. (As an aside, if you are using candles or incense outside, please be sure to use them responsibly!)

    If you’re inside, then you can be more creative with how you want your space. Depending on how much room you have, it might be nice to use a little table to make a permanent altar if you feel inclined. However, a permanent altar isn’t necessary. You can follow the same instructions for creating a temporary indoor altar as an outside one. You can choose items from inside your home that hold special meaning for you, or you can choose items you find outside.

    If you are making a permanent altar, you can keep your sacred items, such as candles, incense, and crystals, on or near it for easy access. The fun part of a permanent altar is that you can change the items on it based on seasons, important holidays or occasions, or based on what you feel at the moment. A permanent altar is also nice because it’s a place you can go to whenever you just need a quick boost of energy or to get centered without having to create a new altar.

     

    Creating Sacred Space

    Now that you have your altar set up or in mind, it’s time to work on creating your sacred space. Creating sacred space is deceptively simple because it’s primarily a mental space.

    Sit in the space that you will be using. If you’ve decided not to create a physical space, just choose a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed.

    Close your eyes and just feel the energy. That might seem a little strange at first, but focus on what the space makes you feel like. Try to focus only on that. Do you feel excited? This might mean the energy in the space is high. Do you feel calm? This might mean the energy in the space is soothing. You get the idea. For this, you’ll simply be paying attention to how the physical space makes you feel.

    Once you know how you feel in that space, then you’re going to tap into that energy to create your sacred space. While sacred space is a mental concept primarily, we’re going to create an energy boundary. Technically, it’s not necessary, but it will help you to feel that this space is outside of your mundane world so that you can more easily focus.

    Feel the energy again and determine what natural place or force it feels like to you. For example, if you feel calm, then maybe the energy feels like the ocean or the forest. Or maybe you feel excited and bursting with energy, so the energy reminds you of a storm. It doesn’t matter what it feels like as long as it makes sense to you.

    You’re going to imagine that natural place or force is surrounding your space like a bubble enclosing you. Visualize it surrounding you, keeping you safe and in a space that is yours alone. When you feel that your space has a natural boundary around it, then thank your deity/deities or the universe for your sacred space. Then you can say, “This space lies outside of reality until I release it,” or something similar that feels right to you.

     

     

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    The mental space should follow your energy. You’ve created an energetic boundary, which should help to keep you focused. However, at first, you will likely find that mundane thoughts and worries creep in, or even that you feel silly. When that happens, remind yourself that this is your space, and nothing and no one outside of yourself is invited. Then take a breath and return your thoughts to the inner work you are doing.

    After some practice, you’ll find that you can create your sacred space easily whenever you want to do inner work. And your mind will learn to quiet down at this time after you’ve practiced it some. If you’re still having trouble keeping your thoughts quiet, then I suggest getting out some paper and dumping it all down right after you create your boundary. That way you can have all those thoughts in front of you and can examine them when you are done. This should help to quiet your mind and let you focus. It can also be good to read what you’ve written and look for any issues that you may need to address, such as patterns of negative thoughts, or problems that you are having trouble finding solutions for.

    When you are finished using your sacred space, it’s simple to release it. Imagine the energetic boundary melting away, or the natural force releasing your space and bringing back into the mundane world. You can also say, “I release this sacred space,” or something similar. You want to acknowledge that you are releasing the energy that was holding the space and moving back into the mundane world.

     

    Having Space for You

    The wonderful thing about being able to create sacred space is that you can return to it whenever you are experiencing stress, doubt, fear, and so on. Whenever you are having troubles, you can return to this space in order to reconnect with yourself and work through the problem.

    It’s a space that becomes like a good friend because it’s a place where you connect with the deepest parts of yourself. It’s also a wonderful to keep centered, grounded, and to work through challenges you’re facing in your inner or outer world. Create sacred space any time you plan to do any inner work and give yourself the gift of focusing on you.

     

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  • Self Care

    A Morning Routine To Reconnect With Yourself

    Does your morning go something like this?

    You roll out of bed after hitting the snooze button for the eighth time then drag yourself to the coffee pot, yawning while the coffee brews. You take that first sip of the too-hot liquid from the gods and find that you are a little less like a brain-crazed zombie. After finishing your first cup of coffee, you debate with yourself about whether or not you have time to work out, knowing full well you’ll keep the argument up until you’ve run out of exercise time just so you don’t have to do it. Then, you’ll feel guilty for not taking better care of yourself, but you’re tired because the kids wouldn’t sleep last night and you just can’t muster up the energy for that workout. Hell, you can barely muster up the energy to drag your butt into the shower and off to work. And now, you’re pretty sure you hear a little one playing in their room. You can’t even get a shower in let alone contemplate the idea of completing a morning routine!

    I’m here to tell you, lady, that it doesn’t have to be this way. You can have a beautiful morning without taking up more precious time than your busy schedule will allow. Even better, after doing this for a few days, you’ll find that you no longer roll out of bed feeling like a zombie. This simple but powerful morning routine will give your more energy and center you so you can face whatever the day brings with love and confidence that you can overcome any challenges.

    Simple Sacred Morning Routine

    This sacred morning routine is short and simple, but will enable you to start your day off feeling calm, centered, and ready to take on the day.

    •    Connect To The Earth With an Intentional Breakfast
    •    Connect To Your Body Through Movement
    •    Connect To Yourself Through Meditation

    Mornings are a crucial time of day because they set the tone for how your whole day will go. If you’ve read The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod, then you understand this statement. If you haven’t, then go buy The Miracle Morning right now! (I’m not an affiliate for the book or Amazon, but I firmly believe this book will change the way you think about mornings.)

    A lot of stuff I’ve read about morning routines requires you to get up super early. That way you have plenty of time for your morning routine without interruptions.

    While I firmly believe in the power of a morning routine, I just can’t fathom the idea of waking up extremely early in order to do it. I seriously wonder how parents can find it in themselves to wake up at 4 am when there isn’t a screaming child! If there’s no baby crying (or grandbaby in my world), then you better believe my ass isn’t getting up at 4 am for anything.

    Sleep is precious, especially for working moms. You already have enough on your plate and little enough time to sleep, so there’s no reason to wake up before the sun rises just to have some alone time.

    That’s why I’ve created this simple morning routine that I follow nearly every day. It never takes me more than 30 minutes, but it’s been life-altering for me. I don’t exaggerate. I went from feeling fatigued and overwhelmed and barely getting myself out of bed in the morning to feeling good when I wake up and having enough energy to do this routine – without first having coffee!

    [As an aside, I drink coffee all day long. I love the stuff. I used to need it pretty much before I rolled out of bed. Now, I don’t drink coffee until a couple hours after I’ve woken up. And I didn’t even try to do that; it was just a natural side effect.]

    If you’re ready to start your day with more energy and feeling centered, then keep reading for my three step simple morning routine.

     

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    Connect To The Earth With an Intentional Breakfast

    The very first thing I recommend every morning is to start with a glass of water. Water has numerous health benefits, including helping prevent weight gain, keeping your temperature normal, and lubricating joints.

    Drink that glass of water slowly while thanking the universe for the beautiful day. Imagine the water flowing through your body and cleansing you as you drink it. It is a new day, and you are cleansed anew by the water. This water you are drinking connects you to all water and all life on the planet. Without water, no life on Earth could exist.

    Be thankful for the water you have. And remember all those who don’t have the luxury of clean drinking water; send good thoughts to them that they may have what they need.

    Eating a little something first thing in the morning is good for you. A healthy breakfast can lower your risk of certain diseases, like diabetes and heart disease, can improve cognitive function, and help with weight loss. It also helps to wake you up and feel more grounded in your body and in the moment. I suggest keeping it small so you don’t wind up feeling tired again.

    Be sure you are choosing healthy foods. Proteins, fruits, and veggies all make excellent breakfast items. Avoid choosing processed foods as they are not the best foods to support your body, they are generally not sustainable, and they will likely make you end up feeling hungry or tired before the morning is over.

    I personally like to make a homemade smoothie every morning. I throw in some spinach, kale, almond milk, fruits and veggies, flax seed, and turmeric and blend it. I take my time finishing it before getting ready for work, but I like to spend a couple minutes while drinking the first part of it to remember all the plants and animals that have given their lives so I may eat. Honoring the sources of our food is one way to connect ourselves to our food in a world where many of us have no hand in the process.

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    Connect To Your Body Through Movement

    Your body was designed to move.

    Yet, many of us spend most of our days sitting on our butts in a front of a computer and then a television and rarely get the amount of exercise that experts recommend. It’s creating degenerative back issues in people much earlier than they should have them.

    But when you have an already overloaded schedule, how can you fit in exercise? Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you can’t unless you make it a priority. And let’s be real, most of us hate to exercise, so we’re not likely to do that for any long period of time. After all, how many times have you sworn a new year’s resolution to exercise, only to have that fall flat before January was done?

    Regardless of time and motivation, movement is vital to your physical, mental, and spiritual health. Taking ten minutes a day to move your body will have worlds of improvement in your life. You’ll feel more focused, more able to handle challenges, and overall happier.

    So, don’t ignore this step.

    However, I’m not going to tell you to do a 10 minute advanced workout either. (Unless that’s what you want to do. In which case, you are a rare jewel, my friend.) What is important in this step is to listen to what your body wants.

    You can ask yourself which kinds of movement sound attractive to you. Do you feel the calm stretching and strengthening of yoga suits your mind and body? Or would you enjoy a walk in the quiet morning? Or maybe dancing sounds like a fun way to start your day?

    There are numerous options for you to choose from, but I encourage you to listen to what feels right for your body and then go with that. And if one day yoga sounds perfect, but the next you want to dance, then do that. Your body knows the movement it wants to do. All you need to do is listen to how you feel.

    Set a timer and spend ten minutes reconnecting to your body through movement. Pay attention to how your body feels. Be thankful that it is there to support you. Remember this body has been with you through everything, and you should love it, even if there are things you want to change about it. By paying attention to your body as you move, you can reconnect to that aspect of yourself that you haven’t paid enough attention to lately. Your body really is a temple; she deserves your respect and love.

    Connect To Yourself Through Meditation

    Now that your body has had a few minutes of movement, you’re ready to settle in for a few quiet moments that support your mind and soul.

    Meditation is often thought of as a time for silence or a time to relax the mind, and it is those things. However, it is more than that. Meditation is a time to reconnect to your heart, mind and soul. It’s a time when you can connect to the deepest parts of yourself.

    Find a comfortable seated position. I don’t recommend laying down because it can be too easy to doze off in that position. Don’t worry about sitting in the full lotus, although you can if you like, but just find a position that will enable you to relax but remain awake. If you have a disability or back problems or other health issue, I do recommend a chair or couch over sitting on the floor. I use a recliner in my office because I have back issues that don’t let me sit on the floor that long even on a cushion. Don’t avoid meditation just because you feel you need to do it “right.” Right is whatever position allows you to focus on your inner world.

    Find some soothing music without words. I suggest creating a playlist of songs that are about ten minutes long. I do this through iTunes and play it through my phone, but you can probably find something on YouTube that will work as well. Another option is to put on a guided meditation that’s about ten minutes.

    The reason you want to use music or a guided meditation is for the time. You can set an alarm instead, but I would only suggest that if you have a tone for your alarm that is soothing rather than jarring. You’re about to go deep within yourself for ten minutes, and the last thing you want is to get abruptly torn out of that.

    Just relax into the music and notice your breath. If you feel antsy or your mind won’t stop thinking, lean into it. Explore how your mind and body feel. Take this ten minutes to get to know yourself. This doesn’t have to be a meditation where you only seek silence. Use this time to build the relationship with yourself.

    Add in Some Self-Love

    When you’re finished, remind yourself how much you love you, and how grateful you are for the body that houses your spirit, for the mind that allows you to love and accomplish great things, and for the spirit in you that is sacred.

    Breathe deep, and thank yourself for taking this time for you. You are beautiful, you are amazing, and you are worth taking care of. Remind yourself of these things throughout the day.

    Don’t forget to add a few affirmations into your morning meditation! You can get your free copy of my 21 Self-Love Affirmations when you sign up for the newsletter below